First of all don't kid yourself. People are going to begrudge you. One thing about this life is you have to have a certain tenacity or you'll get run over. Eaten alive. It's a jungle out there ;)
What I mean is you have to know how to gauge your risks. You have to keep your head up. Lots of times things just don't work out for a while. And the tumbles down the rocky slope hurt like hell and it's easy to get discouraged.
What I'm getting to is you have to have some fairly thick skin or at least start developing some or else people are going to get to you and get you down.
The trickiest part of the whole thing depends on one thing: How unrealistic the expectations of the person you're going to go visit/stay with are. In other words, to what extent have they already planned your life before you've crossed the county line.
You absolutely have to accept this. No matter how much this person loves you and is nice to you and would nurse you through the flu, EVERYone has an agenda. You've just got to know how to pick and choose. And you have your agenda too. So if they match up and you can co-exist then it's the right place and the right time.
And then just the basic rules of the road - leave every place nicer somehow, do more than your share, the things that make life happy and fun. And enjoy the stay.
But the hardest thing of all is people are going to try and talk you out of it. And nearly everybody does this. Some people are obviously worse than others. Some will just shrug when you don't heed their advice and absolutely kick back and let things happen while others will wring their hands and worry constantly and it will start to get on your nerves. Because all the worry is negative and it can start your own tapes up and depending on the noise ratio you can get pretty overwhelmed pretty fast. So that's the worst kind of situation where you end up having to move on lots sooner than you thought.
And I guess that's about it for 101.
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